LAS VEGAS (KSNV MyNews3.com) –
There are victims of domestic violence who feel completely stuck and afraid. They may not want to call the police or a hot line. There are other opportunities for assistance.
Julie Proctor was a victim of domestic violence in her first marriage. She and her second husband, the late Judge Ken Proctor, opened up Safe House in Henderson in 1994. It's a place to help battered women and children.
"I did not know what to do, but my son was very young and that motivated me to try to get out and teach him a different way of living," Proctor said.
She understands how a woman in a similar situation might feel paralyzed to seeking help through hotlines and police. She offers some safety suggestions.
"Pack a bag of clothing, some of their important documents that they need for themselves and their children and a little bit of money, maybe put it at a neighbor's house," Proctor said.
She says be aware of dangerous rooms in your home where there may be tools or potential weapons, such as the garage or kitchen; back your car into the garage for easier access and escape; and consider a signal with a trusted neighbor.
"Every day you open up curtains at a certain time, like 10 o'clock in the morning, and one morning your neighbors notice that it's 11:30 and the curtains are still closed,” Proctor said. “That could be a sign that something is going on. Porch lights, flicker the porch lights on and off."
Katherine Moldovan, president of Healing, Overcoming, Preventing, Empowering, or H.O.P.E., also says there are many books that could be helpful, including “Why Does He Do That?” It could be downloaded and hidden on a phone.
"It will empower her. It will help her to understand why her mate engages either in emotional, physical or sexual abuse" Moldovan said.
She also says consider just not engaging the enemy, even if you want to stand up for yourself, because it could escalate the situation to violence. Moldovan says safety is not yours only. It impacts children as well, and that means caring for their emotions too.
Experts also say there are plenty of counseling services available, some of them free of cost; and there are churches and places of worship that can also help.